It’s Not God’s Will’: Pastor Omakwu Speaks Against Married Couples Living Separately

Sarah Omakwu has advised married couples to avoid living separately, arguing that shared living arrangements are essential for maintaining strong and healthy marriages.

Speaking during an episode of her Marriage Is Sweet series, the cleric expressed concern over the growing trend of spouses residing in different cities or countries while remaining married, describing the arrangement as contrary to God’s design for marriage.

“This thing these days, man will live in Abuja, the wife is in Scotland. It’s not the will of God,” she said.

Omakwu stressed that marriage thrives on companionship, emotional connection and physical intimacy, questioning how couples who live far apart are able to adequately meet one another’s needs.

She noted that prolonged separation can place strain on relationships and create challenges that may affect the stability of a marriage over time.

The pastor further warned that living apart could expose spouses to various temptations, particularly in an era dominated by social media and easy access to online content. According to her, couples who do not share the same home may be more vulnerable to unhealthy habits and inappropriate online relationships.

“In this day and age of internet, you have to be on the same bed before your husband or wife forms a culture of pornography,” she stated.

Beyond physical proximity, Omakwu also emphasised the importance of trust and openness between spouses. She encouraged couples to be transparent with one another, including in their use of mobile phones and digital devices.

According to her, excessive secrecy within a marriage can breed suspicion and weaken the bond between partners.

“Any marriage where the husband or wife cannot touch the phone of the other person, something is wrong,” she said.

While acknowledging that work, education and other circumstances sometimes require couples to spend time apart, Omakwu maintained that husbands and wives should make every effort to live together whenever possible, describing togetherness as a key ingredient for a lasting and fulfilling marriage.

Her comments have sparked conversations about the realities of modern relationships, particularly among families navigating career opportunities, migration and economic pressures that often force spouses to live in different locations.